For instance, on Match.com, a dating service, women made up 40 percent of the dating pool while men made up 60 percent according to a recent survey. Also, men are more likely to pay for dating services with many paid programs allowing women to register for free while men have to pay a hefty fee.
Why is it that when it comes to a dating service, women are so reluctant to “put themselves out there?” It boils down to women not wanting to be seen as the aggressors in a relationship.
Women want to flirt, to be teased, to have a little bit of a dance before a date is made. On a dating website, these women have to come out and say “I want a date. Here are the things I want in a man. Here are the things I offer.” That’s too blunt for many women.
But that doesn’t mean that men should despair about using dating services. For instance, while many women won’t start by putting up a profile of their own, they may browse through the profiles men have created. Once they see someone who looks interesting, they may be willing to create a profile so that they can contact the person.
Further, while the odds are stacked in favor of the women, there are still a fair number of women in the dating data banks.
Here’s some advice about how to use a dating service. Women love specifics. Don’t blend into the crowd. A lot of men say they like walks on the beach at sunset. Instead, say something funny or different.
When you do make a declarative statement in your profile, use the word “because.” I like foreign films because they remind me of the time I spent in France as an exchange student in high school. I like anime because I love my inner geek. Not only does this explain your choices to your potential new girlfriend, it also helps you refine what you write.
But, you are not just writing about the things you have to offer in a relationship. You are also able to write about the things you want in a woman you are dating.
Too many men don’t take full advantage of this when using a dating service. Women aren’t helped by general terms like “no psychos please.” They need specifics too. They need you to weed out the women who you would never spend more than one short date with. If more women were confident that a dating service date would lead to a relationship, more women would use the service.
So, when using a dating service, women need you to be as specific as possible.